Our thoughts help to make up our lives. The way we think about things can often lead to the way we see things. It is interesting and sometimes puzzling to me, how two people can observe the same thing or concept, and come up with vastly different opinions on what they see (or see in their mind's framing of the idea or scene in front of them). Have you experienced this variation on perception too? Our parents generally provide us with our first role models in our lives. We watched how they did things, and this shaped our world when we were very young. When we went to school, our teachers and friends said and did things, and this also helped to mould and affect the way we saw things, and thought about our world. Our acceptance of our world and possibly the events in our world may have been largely influenced by those in our lives at our earliest age too. We began to see the word around us in a different way as we grew, and matured. For most of us, we began to develop our unique view and opinions of world events, people and so on. For good or bad, early life influences moulded our thoughts and behaviours. For good or bad, some of these thoughts may have stayed with us till our adult lives. But now we can take over the reins. We are in charge of our thoughts. We are in charge of our feelings, and we are in charge of our behaviours. As adults we are told, and expected to behave in a certain way. As a grown up!
Ideally, our thoughts, feelings and behaviours as an adult have matured and changed from when we were a child or teen. Our thoughts can change at any time. This then can flow on to our feelings and finally our behaviours. When we change our thoughts we change the way we see our world and the people around us. If you have had a lot of negativity surround your life, you might have unconsciously taken on this energy and thinking. But you do have the means to change this way of being. With practice (and assistance from professional therapists if needed), you can change your thinking in to a more positive outlook and way of being. The way you see things can then help you to feel better. If previously you woke in the morning, and dreaded to get out of bed to face the day and its challenges, and go to work, then you can aim to change the way you see your morning. Perhaps you can change your thoughts on waking in the morning? You can aim to re-frame your thoughts about your morning. Perhaps start to think that it is a wonderful privilege to wake up at all in the morning. Your ability to get out of bed easily and dress in your favourite clothes. Eat a nutritious meal, and drink your favourite brew. Perhaps aim to meet up with people that bring a smile to your face. Speak with people who bring you happiness. Seeing it rain can be a dampener to some people’s moods. Most of us prefer a sunny day. But you can decide that a rainy day is a good day to be working inside. Getting all those tasks done that you had saved up “for a rainy day”. “Change the way you see things and the way you see things, change”. Surround yourself with inspiring messages. Whether on social media, or reading books that inspire you. Make it a regular practice and activity that you now focus on changing your thoughts. You will notice that you see the world around you differently. You will likely also notice how those around you observe their world according to their thoughts. You can perhaps influence a conversation and turn the negative thoughts expressed by another person, into a more neutral point of view or see the positive in the situation that another person may not have seen themselves. So, you can influence your world, and another person's way of seeing things, in ways that you might never have previously considered. Your mind is powerful. A wonderful part of your body that affects you physically, mentally, and emotionally. Take care what you think, and it can take care of how you feel and behave. Share your joy with your family and friends. They will receive happiness from your happiness. Changing the way you see things ultimately changes how you see your world. Concentrate on seeing positivity, beauty, joy, happiness, and love, and that is what you will ultimately see in your world. If others notice a change in you, then you can smile, and share your secret to your happiness. “Change the way you see things, and the way you see things-change!” By Lynda Kaplan (Author, Loving Me-How to love and cherish yourself.)
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